By Jeff Damulira
I have written about the previous post on how Henry Kissinger became a highly effective secretary of the state during Nixon administration; although, he didn't get along with Nixon, but he was meddling in every aspect of the administration. For example, Henry Kissinger massively contributed to the process of policy making and Nixon could change the operation of the policy, but the initial ideas of policy were shaped with Kissinger's involvement. However, my perspective of Kissinger's involvement of Nixon's administration, applies to all aspect in dealing with others; because the more we become involved in helping others— the more valuable we become. Therefore, others will feel sense of being indebted to our service, which will maximise the lasting sense of partnership and mutual satisfaction. Although, this could happen in relationship, projects or work and something may interfere in the long run; but you will always feel a sense of regret or guilt-- if you happen to split up with someone who has contributed a lot to your agenda, interest or enterprise and it may become a hard process to replace a highly valuable person in your life.
By Jeff Damulira
Law of reciprocity is equally effective in digital platform and in person. Because, when we continue to help others in business, depending on your niche, they will feel sense of being indebted to you. Therefore, it becomes an easier process to influence others on the digital platform. For example, a blogger named Yaro Starak has written a post on utilising reciprocity to drive traffic and sales. However, he stated in his post on these examples stated below:
Law of reciprocity is an powerful arsenal in a realm of influence. Because, through personal experiences and reading several social psychology books and other related books has shown the difference in correlation between law of reciprocity and likeability. Especially, if the other person has consistently and indirectly done a favour of buying you something. For example, from personal experiences in living in London; prior to moving to Manchester—the very few people out of dozens of people, who made an effort to spend money on me, were able to increase their likeability levels. Thereby, I felt extremely pleased to enjoy their presence and maintain a close bond. Therefore, my personal testimonial based on experience can prove that a simple act of generosity has the magical effect of increasing influence and persuasion—during longevity of maintaining bond with others. Nevertheless, if you want to influence people and maintain a long lasting of fruitful bond with others— spend money on them. Because, the more money you spend on others, the more admiration you will receive in return.
Cyrus's deliberations led him to adopt the following plan, which he found best suited to his purpose. He wrote on a roll of parchment that Astyages had appointed him to command the Persian army; then he summoned an assembly of the Persians, opened the roll in their presence and read out what he had written. “And now, he added, I have an order for you: every man is to appear on parade with a billhook. ...” The order was obeyed. All the men assembled with their billhooks, and Cyrus's next command was before the day was out they should clear a certain piece of rough land full of thorn-bushes, about eighteen or twenty furlongs square. This too was done, whereupon Cyrus issued the further order that they should present themselves again on the following day, after having taken a bath. Meanwhile, Cyrus collected and slaughtered all his father's goats, sheep, and oxen in preparation for entertaining the whole Persian army at a banquet, together with the best wine and bread he could procure.
After the meal Cyrus asked them which they preferred yesterday's work or today's amusement; and they replied that it was indeed a far cry from the previous day's misery to their present pleasures. This was the answer which Cyrus wanted; he seized upon it at once and proceeded to lay bare what he had in mind. “Men of Persia,” he said, “listen to me: obey my orders, and you will be able to enjoy a thousand pleasures as good as this without ever turning your hands to menial labor; but, if you disobey, yesterday 's task will be the pattern of innumerable others you will be forced to perform. Take my advice and win your freedom. The man destined to undertake your liberation, and it is my belief that you are a match for the Medes in war as in everything else. It is the truth I tell you. Do not delay, but fling off the yoke of Astyages at once.”The Persians had long resented their subjection to the Medes. At last they had found a leader, and welcomed with enthusiasm the prospect of liberty.... On the present occasion the Persians under Cyrus rose against the Medes and from then onwards were masters of Asia.
Pietro Aretino, son of a lowly shoemaker, had catapulted himself into fame as a writer of biting satires. But like every Renaissance artist, he needed to find a patron who would give him a comfortable lifestyle while not interfering with his work. In 1528 Aretino decided to attempt a new strategy in the patronage game. Leaving Rome, he established himself in Venice, where few had heard of him. He had a fair amount of money he had managed to save, but little else. Soon after he moved into his new home, however, he threw open its doors to rich and poor, regaling them with banquets and amusements. He befriended each and every gondolier, tipping them royally. In the streets, he spread his money liberally, giving it away to beggars, orphans, washerwomen. Among the city's commoners, word quickly spread that Aretino was more than just a great writer, he was a man of power, a kind of lord.
Artists and men of influence soon began to frequent Aretino's house. Within a few years he made himself a celebrity; no visiting dignitary would think of leaving Venice without paying him a call. His generosity had cost him most of his savings, but had bought him influence and a good name a cornerstone in the foundation of power. Since in Renaissance Italy as elsewhere the ability to spend freely was the privilege of the rich, the aristocracy thought Aretino had to be a man of influence, since he spent money like one. And since the influence of a man of influence is worth buying, Aretino became the recipient of all sorts of gifts and moneys. Dukes and duchesses, wealthy merchants, and popes and princes competed to gain his favor, and showered him with all kinds of presents.
Aretino's spending habits, of course, were strategic, and the strategy worked like a charm. But for real money and comfort he needed a great patron's bottomless pockets. Having surveyed the possibilities, he eventually set his sights on the extremely wealthy Marquis of Mantua, and wrote an epic poem that he dedicated to the marquis. This was a common practice of writers looking for patronage: In exchange for a dedication they would get a small stipend, enough to write yet another poem, so that they spent their lives in a kind of constant servility. Aretino, however, wanted power, not a measly wage. He might dedicate a poem to the marquis, but he would offer it to him as a gift, implying by doing so that he was not a hired hack looking for a stipend but that he and the marquis were equals.
Aretino's gift-giving did not stop there: As a close friend of two of Venice's greatest artists, the sculptor Jacopo Sansovino and the painter Titian, he convinced these men to participate in his gift-giving scheme. Aretino had studied the marquis before going to work on him, and knew his taste inside and out; he was able to advise Sansovino and Titian what subject matter would please the marquis most. When he then sent a Sansovino sculpture and a Titian painting to the marquis as gifts from all three of them, the man was beside himself with joy.
Over the next few months, Aretino sent other gifts, swords, saddles, the glass that was a Venetian specialty, he knew the marquis prized. Soon he, Titian, and Sansovino began to receive gifts from the marquis in return. And the strategy went further: When the son-in-law of a friend of Aretino's found himself in jail in Mantua, Aretino was able to get the marquis to arrange his release.
The circle of influence was growing wider. Time and again, Aretino was able to cash in on the immense political power of the marquis, who also helped him in his many court romances.Eventually, however, the relationship became strained, as Aretino came to feel that the marquis should have requited his generosity better. But he would not lower himself to begging or whining: Since the exchange of gifts between the two men had made them equals, it would not seem right to bring up money. He simply withdrew from the marquis's circle and hunted for other wealthy prey, settling first on the French king Francis, then the Medicis, the Duke of Urbino, Emperor Charles V, and more. In the end, having many patrons meant he did not have to bow to any of them, and his power seemed comparable to that of a great lord.
Aretino understood two fundamental properties of money: First, that it has to circulate to bring power. What money should buy is not lifeless objects but power over people. By keeping money in constant circulation, Aretino bought an ever-expanding circle of influence that in the end more than compensated him for his expenses
Examples of Henry Kissinger involvement of many areas of the political structure can be a great lesson to becoming indispensable to others
By Jeff Damulira
Henry Kissinger involvement of many aspects of the political structure, made him one of the most effective U.S Secretary of State since 1965. Although, I have gotten some information about him becoming indispensable to Nixon during his presidency in the 48 Laws of Power. Nevertheless, there is controversial side of Henry Kissinger; because his policies were based on securing national interest than human rights and justice. But, it's an great lesson to observe the importance of becoming more involved in others or projects would raise your value and create a more fruitful relationship with others. Likewise, this could be effective in relationship and business—because the more you can add value to others, the more valuable you become. Nevertheless, this could be in helping more often with extra paperwork, duties, errands, ideas or helping with writing reports or forms of inquiry. For example, I was able to demonstrate my willingness to become more involved in helping several students — during my studies at Middlesex University in 2013 to 2014. Likewise, during the first years of studying psychology — I was able to create an significant impact of making some female students pass their statistical exams. Although I don't like bragging, but my value increased in comparison to the other fellas who never helped others.
Moreover, the more you are willing to help other people in business, project, endeavours and education; the more fruitful, rewarding and satisfying the relationships tend to be.